My Letter to the Editor in response:
Annette Wale’s reprimand of women who dress as they please and expect the basic dignity of not being sexually assaulted is a “dangerous message” indeed. Not only is it offensive to men to imply they’re one short skirt away from being rapists, it also makes women feel they are to blame for someone choosing to disregard their consent and autonomy.
According to Ministry of Justice statistics, 1 in 4 women in this country will experience unwanted and distressing sexual contact in her lifetime. The majority of those will be with someone known to the victim, and in their own home. So let’s stop characterising rape with dark alleys and strangers. But regardless of the scenario, the fact women still haven’t escaped proprietary status is never more obvious than when we’re held responsible for ‘tempting’ men into abusing us. Rape myths harm everyone.
If you are a guy and are not a rapist who doesn’t think this is such a big deal, why are you not more offended by the notion that you all the agency and control of a ‘see flesh -> must rape’ reflex? This logic pisses me the hell off. It should piss you off too.
And since it most often seems to be the religious right that ends up doing the victim-blaming, I’d just like to remind everyone that the bible says, if part of your body causes you to sin, you should cut it off.
To put this in another context: if two drunks get in a barfight, who is to blame? The one who insulted the other guy’s team/s.o./masculinity? Or the guy who throws the first punch?
If you’re going to hold inebriated, testosterone-full men accountable for these actions, you might want to consider holding them accountable for others. Just saying.
(And Ellen: I concur. We should reinstate this process. It works well for Westeros.)
I was actually referring to the bit where he said you should do it yourself, not saying that it should be used as a punishment. I suspect that passage was not meant to be taken literally, but rather to imply that lack of self control is a really stupid excuse for sinning, because if you really didn’t want to sin but part of your body kept on sinning for you despite your brain’s wishes, there’s a clear solution, but since just about everyone wants to avoid that solution, it must be more than just that body part that is okay with the sin.
Reblogging for commentary. I would add more, but I’m computerless and phone typing is not fun.